I’ve always gotten nervous during pelvic exams. Years ago, my kind doctor gave me simple advice that stuck with me. “If you want to calm your mind, focus on wiggling your toes,” she said with a gentle smile. It sounded silly, but it worked — it gave me something else to think about. Over time, it became my little coping mechanism whenever anxiety crept in. I never thought it would lead to an unforgettable moment years later.
At a new appointment with a different doctor, I used my toe-wiggling trick again. The room was quiet until I suddenly heard him clear his throat nervously. Then, in a hesitant voice, he asked, “Um… are you… dancing?” I burst out laughing, and he quickly joined in, the tension melting away. In that instant, my fear was replaced with pure relief and humor.